Monday's full harvest moon was a great opportunity to let go of things that no longer serve us. Old patterns. Old repeated cycles. Belief systems that keep re-enacting similar scenarios and experiences over and over again.

It was a time to break the cycle. Personally and collectively.

Many things are coming to an end now. We see it in France's governance issues, Europe's problems with not being able to balance migration with protecting its own population. In the US, blue cities clashing with National guards.

You see it in your personal life, too. When you really look.

My full moon was in an area I felt blockages most of my life. And it might affect you: See, manifestation right now is on many people's minds. Millions are seeking to manifest abundance, leave scarcity thinking behind and understand the true meaning of prosperity as given by God.

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We are a channel, not the chaser. The commander, not the beggar.

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We are a channel, not the chaser. The commander, not the beggar. Yet ... putting this into practice and getting into an emotional receptive mode to allow financial flowing takes serious work.

Yes, there is the ability to imagine. Then the ability to add real-life emotions to it. But, you can create all you want - if you not also reset the neurological pathways.

And that means clearing debris: belief systems, values and: relationships.

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The connection very few made is this: if you have an ambivalent relationship with your mother - you have an ambivalent relationship with money.

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The mother represents 'mater' (latin word for mother). 'Material" stems from mater - your relationship to your mother. The mother is the first and most important caregiver a child experiences.

Depending on your personal make up and emotional needs as a child - this relationship determines your later relationship in life with the material.

If you have an emotionally distant mother - you're emotionally distant to money and the natural flow.

If you have an overbearing mother - you may have problems with overflow.

If you have a narcissistic mother - it's whole different ball game.

For most of my life, the relationship between my mother and me can be characterized as ambivalent. A water sign, with a very ESP (extrasensory perception) - emotional depth and intuition is part of my makeup and strength.

My needs as a child for emotional connection ran deep. Yet, with a narcissitic mother - true emotional connection is not possible. Narcissists cannot emotionally connect. Even though they sometimes make you believe it.

But in essence they take your emotions and reflect it back to you - while you believe you get something in return. I understood that early on as a child.

Because she could not give real emotions, she would often give 'gifts' instead. Jewelry, clothes. And whenever she felt like it - she would take it back. Just like that.

This leaves children with a toxic feeling and reluctance to receiving, because you expect that it can be taken away at a whim.

Thus, you stop trusting the flow - and actually worse, cut yourself off. To protect your own sanity, emotions and space.

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It's a dynamic that sets the groundwork for a blurred understanding of 'give' and 'receive'.

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People who experience this end up likely more in the giving position than in the receiving position. But in reality, it takes both, reciprocally: the giver is at the same time the receiver and the receiver is at the same time the giver. This is the blueprint of nature and the divine order. It's a divine law of exchange.

With narcissists however, there's only one who gives all the time. So, there's an imbalance. A corrupted flow.

The inventors of fiat banking operate in this space, too: the base energy is a narcissist vampire dynamic, where there's only one in the equation who really gives and it's not the ones who push the button to make money out of thin air.

The actual creation of value in that exchange is the person who comes up with the idea, the emotions, the passion. The fiat bankers just mirror it back which got them the nickname 'banksters', for a reason.

This kind of exchange takes place between a child and a narcissistic mother. The child will give all it has, but never gets back what she really seeks: emotional energy from a reciprocal exchange.

This dynamic has many impacts on people:

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• It confuses the child. Felt emotional coldness is often clouded in manipulation - even if this type of mother appears generous on the external. But this give and take at a whim is insecure behavior that creates instable bonding.
• It blurs boundaries between give and receive.
• The child experiences a deep longing for love and emotional closeness, but experiences at the same time disappointment and instability. A toxic experience of flow - receiving.

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This hinders the development of a feeling for safety and security. And this lack of feeling of safety and security is what creates later adults who either cling to finances, feel bad about the flow of money, because they have an ambivalent relationship with security and control.

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The mother (mater, mater-ial; matri-x = uterus/womb) imprints how financial safety is experienced and lived.

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The mother (mater) imprints how financial safety is experienced and lived. Healing this means you have to heal your reationship to your Mother, but also the relationship to safety and security. Until you get to a point where the theme of money no longer feels like a threat and causes you stress or discomfort.

Emotional instability as a child and lack of material stability are closely linked. They are hand in glove.

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Can you heal that?

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Yes. But it takes commitment to go into subdued feelings, suppressed emotions and really dive into your ancestry, your roots. Your childhood. And your learning purpose of why you came here.

First, you must get to a point where you recognize emotional un-clarity and confusion about your mother and your own built ideas of money in your mind. Then you have to let go of the idealised version of the image of your mother.

This, BTW, applies also to people who believe "money corrupts", "money divides", "money is evil", "all about money", etc. Those belief systems go back to your mother or your experience of the relationship to your mother. Guaranteed.

Second, you must do the work to really understand your own needs and motivations. What is your underlying driver? What does your soul try to learn? it has a lot to do with why you came here. And, yes, your astrological makeup, the brands you resonate with, the perfumes you like, the vibration of your name, the style of your home, the books you read, what you surround yourself with -- all can tell you about that.

You must discover your real underlying values and then learn to set healthy boundaries.

And lastly, you must INTEGRATE , not exclude, the inner dynamics of your mother-child bonding and relationship. This is connected to radical inner transformation.

It is essential. Because the mother is matter, the material-the real door to material abundance.

If you are interested in learning how to do this process, book a consultation with me.

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Nicolette DeVidar is a tv host, writer, spiritual pioneer and bridge-building visionary. She hosts the popular "Smart Sustainability Show" and is at home at the intersection of spirituality, nature, belonging, empowerment and civic co-creation - the language of the Soul.

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